Since 2013
digging into "sexual consent"
"Sexual consent" is a very important concept in terms of human rights and building relationships by confirming each other's willingness to actively engage in sexual acts. am. In this subcommittee, Mr. Asuka Someya, the chairman of NPO Pilcon, and "I have two lovers. I will think about "sexual consent" with Ms. Kinoko, the author of "A Way of Life called Polyamory".
【topic】
・What is sexual consent?
・Sexual consent resolution (how detailed sexual consent is obtained)
What are the situations where sexual consent is difficult?
・Positive (sexy?) sexual consent
・How to make use of sexual consent for a rich sexual life and relationships?
What is the relationship between polyamory and sexual consent?
[Sexual consent related/reference site]
[Polyamory-related and reference sites]
I have two lovers. ~ A way of life called polyamory (multiple love) ~
[Message from the speakers]
Message from Someya
Sexual consent is a concept that helps both parties communicate in a safe and intimate manner. We have also been disseminating information based on overseas information and the voices of young people. On the other hand, in the cultural background of Japan, there is a deep-rooted sense of taboo about sex. It's natural to feel confused, anxious, or worried about your partner's reaction to speaking out or speaking openly about sex. In this session, while sharing sexual consent with everyone, I would like to think about what kind of ingenuity can be done and what kind of relationship changes can occur by incorporating it.
Message from Kinoko
In Japan, there is a concept of “honne and tatemae”. It means that the "honne" that you say in your mouth and the "honne" that you think in your heart are different things. And, as an extension of that way of thinking, it is sometimes said that "I hate it, I hate it, I love it." Especially when a woman is invited by a man, it means that even if she says "no", it is actually "yes". But is that really the case? The way of life called polyamory that I advocate is a romantic style in which three or more people are in a relationship with the consent of all parties involved. In other words, in polyamory, it is more important than anything to take various agreements in dating, not just sexual acts. Including that, in this subcommittee, I would like to think with everyone about sexual consent, "What is consent in the first place?" I think.
Someya Asuka
NPO PilconChairman
Based on her own experience, she became aware of the number of unexpected pregnancies and abortions in Japan. In addition to sex education lectures and content creation for young people such as junior high and high school students, sex education courses for parents and educators have a good reputation, and many requests are received from local governments. He also promotes policy proposals and a Japanese translation project of overseas sex education video AMAZE. Adolescent Health Counselor, Certified Psychologist (expected acquisition).
In the book "Man's child's "sex" understood by manga, "Karuta’.
Kinoko / Writer
As "polyamory", which is dating with multiple partners at the same time under the agreement of all parties, it is disseminating themes such as love, sex, partnership, and communication. Genderqueer (non-binary) and quaromantic LGBT person. Divorced without children, she is also a sex-positive self-proclaimed bitch feminist.
In the book "I have two lovers. 〜A way of life called polyamory〜’.
Composite event on polyamory"#polyamory week2023" will be held from 2/20 (Mon) to 2/26 (Sun)!